And Another One...

Do marital blues have seasons, too? 

I just had a conversation via phone with a good friend. She too is having marital problems. Her husband is on a jealousy streak over a mutual guy-friend of ours. 

Here's my take:

A husband usually doesn't let another man get into his skin if he isn't uncomfortable with the idea of his wife having a very intimate friendship  with another man. So maybe it would be best to reflect first on ones actuation to better understand where the other person is coming from. 

Think, are you giving him reasons to doubt?  Because spending more time with others than with him and your family would surely send a red-light signal to your hubby. 

So my advice would be,

1. Manage your time well. This is so you won't sacrifice family quality time with the time you have to spend with your self, your craft or other point of interests. This is because while marriage is a commitment, it isn't a cage. One is not supposed to give up his/her individuality because one marries. That is why married couple are commanded to nurture eachother's likeness and respect eachother's differences.

2. Talk with your husband. If he really has nothing to worry with your friendship with others, then let him understand that.  Nurse the bruised ego. Reassure him that you love him . An open-line of communication usually does the trick.

3. Be constant. Do not be preoccupied with atypical things that you forget to put your family first. Remember, Family Comes First. Having said that, learn to know your limits and be constant with it. Reflect reflect din pag may time :D

As an end note, The Family Code had given married couples a guide in their obligation to one another.

Art.68: The husband and wife are obliged to live together, observe mutual love, respect and fidelity, and render mutual help and support.

God Blesses A Family that Prays Together. 

-mcm